Pregnancy will not keep him - DON'T DO IT

Ladies, please don't think that getting pregnant will make him marry you or force him to stay with you for ever. I must admit, some men do marry the women they make pregnant but most don't. What that will do is just make him carry animosity for you. Even if he marries you, because of pressures from family, he might never love you and all it will lead to is him running around and seeing other women. In some cases a man will wait for the child to grow up and then leave for the person he truly loves. This is why sometimes you see a middle aged woman, whose husband just dumps her for what seems like no apparent reason. I am sure no one wants to spend their Golden years alone. Getting pregnant to trap him is a big mistake. DON'T DO IT! or EVEN THINK IT!

I just had an experience with a girl who did that to a friend of mine, she told him she was on the pill, but was apparently lying as a month later she got pregnant and he found out she never actually ever took the pill. Now my friend can't stand the girl, he does his best to ignore her most of the time and even when she is around him, he just sits on the phone chatting to other girls and which makes her cry all the time. And he has told her point blank the he will never marry her or even continue the relationship with her. Some women think that if they get pregnant he will stick around, he might out of loyalty and love for his child but believe me, whatever love he had for you will never be the same. Or a man will just take care of his child and go on to marry the love of his life.

What i am trying to say is wait till you're married and you're both ready, then start making your babies. Once a man makes the commitment to get married, 9 times out of 10 he is ready for children also. This way you both want the same thing and the child is produced out of love. This will even make him fall in love with you more. Don't you want to be cherished and adored? Have patience, stick to your guns about not having sex before marriage and you'll never have go through uncertainties about your child and baby daddy drama!

Manipulation

As a woman never manipulate yourself into a relationship. Be yourself at all times, let the man see you for who you are. I have recently had an experience with a woman who has been manipulating herself into my brother's life. This woman is as evil as they come; everything about her personality is fake. I look at her and i pity her cos no one can hide who they are for a long time it always comes out. When you meet a man you like, be yourself, let him know what he is coming in for. One thing you don't wan't to do is manipulate yourself into a marriage and later get dumped or not have the love you want after your man finds out who you really are. Don't change your personality to suit the situation. Many women do this and they find it is to their detriment. Please always be yourself and always be honest with your man.

Co habitation

Please at no point in time should you move in with your man even if its at his request. Question is why is he asking you to move in? Is it to watch how you would relate to each other on a day to day basis? Why can't he marry you then if he wants to spend day and night with you. Its the same thing. Just because a man ask you to move in with him doesn't mean he is going to marry you. For some its just a matter of convenience,they have someone they can split the bills and expenses with,therefore saving money and they get sex anytime they want, for others they can't stand to be alone and they need someone around all the time. Doesn't mean they will marry you, just means you're there for now, till the right person comes along and you're no longer needed. So don't get all excited because you're living with him, he might still not marry you and just string you along. You can live with a man for 10yrs and if he's not going to marry you, he will not marry you. Living with him early might even prolong any plans he has of asking you to marry him, if thats was his intention. In some cases living with him early, might change his mind about wanting to marry you. Tell him if wants to spend each day with you he should marry you. That is the only way you will move in with him.

Premarital Sex - Loneliness.

Let me tell you, loneliness is one of the worst things in the world. And 2005 was one of the loniest years for me,because i had been going about everything the wrong way. I had finally gotten this great paying job, moved into a beautiful apartment, had everything i needed and was lonely as hell. Don't get me wrong i went out with friends, hang with family, went on dates but i was still lonely. I had family members trying to hook me up but nothing was working. I kept meeting guys i didn't like and the ones i liked didn't really want a relationship. I met this guy on a blind date that i really liked, i remember upon seeing him praying to God that he would be the one. He had everything i was looking for. We started seeing each other and of course started having sex. But i started realizing that after sex he would leave, even if he spent the night he would be gone early the next morning. He would arrive really late and leave real early. And he never took me anywhere. He would call to find out if i had cooked then come over. There were days i would leave early from work, rush home to cook and get ready for him but then would show up around midnight . So here i was in a supposed relationship and still very lonely. I had told my friends about him, but everytime they called or came over i was by myself. This man had no interest in me besides food and sex. I decided to advice myself and let him go. After a while i got introduced to another man by one of my co workers, i had a lot of hope for this one. We hit it off pretty well and started seeing each other, sex being part of it. He would come over or i would go over to his house. But as i got to know him i realized he and i didn't want the same things and we didn't really get along so we parted ways. And this dating and wasting my own time went on for the rest of the year. Because i kept going about getting what i wanted the wrong way. What i am trying to say is; you will be out there, dating and having sex and still be very lonely. These men will come for what they want and leave. Some will only show up for sex and others will try to string you along. The more they come and go, the more lonely you will feel. But once you put your foot down and say exactly what it is you want, these things are not likely to happen to you.

Premarital Sex, Stop Getting Used

Before i talk about how i met my husband, i want to give another example of what not to do if you're a woman looking to settle down. I am going to use my brother and his female friend as an example. My brother has been involved with this woman for a couple of months now. This woman comes to the house in the middle of the night and by morning she's gone. So i asked my brother what was going on with him and this woman, he said he was just having fun, she wasn't really his type. So i asked him how old the woman was and he said 27yrs. Then i asked him if she knew he was just having fun, he replied that when he had told her he wasn't interested in a serious relationship with her,she just started crying. The next time they spoke, she pretended he had never said anything to her and asked him over. He says anytime they speak, she's always talking about their future and making plans, although he's told her a couple of times that he's not really looking for that with her. See,my brother, upon telling this woman, that he didn't want a serious relationship with her, said he had expected not to hear from her again, but instead she called him the next day and asked him over. And you know a man will never turn down free sex. So he keeps going over and she keeps coming to spend the night, but is never invited to stay over the next day ,and she keeps doing everything to show him that she loves him, including buying gifts, cooking, cleaning his room etc. Everytime i see this girl i want to say something to her, but i don't want to interfere in my brother's business. But here is a 27yr old woman who wants to get married and going about it the completly wrong way, by throwing herself at a man, who has made it clear to her over and over again that he doesn't want a relationship. Don't get it wrong its not like my brother doesn't want to be in a serious relationship, as matter of fact he wants to get married but just not to her. And he's made it plain and clear to this woman,but she keeps trying and trying. Like i said, men pretty much know if they want to marry you or not. So if my brother doesn't meet anyone for the next 2yrs, he's just going to keep sleeping with her and she's gonna keep thinking she might be able to change his mind, in the meantime she's not getting any younger and she's just getting used. Imagine how she will feel after he dumps her and she finds out he's getting married. Don't let this happen to you, don't sleep with him, if he really loves you he will understand and stick around, if not he will walk away. My brother is only with this girl because of the free sex, if she stops giving he will have no need for her because there is nothing else he wants from this girl. Imagine if she had set some boundaries from the beginning and laid down some rules. She would never have to go through everything she's experiencing and all the pain that's yet to come. And believe me there is going to be pain, because she is so emotionaly invested in this. If a man doesn't want you, there is nothing you can do to change that, there is no miracle that will occur for him to finally see that you're the one. No amount of love or kindness you shower him will change that. You will end up feeling like a fool in the end. A used fool, i might add.

Premarital Sex, Save ur self the pain and heartache

This all depends on what you want from a man. Do you want marriage or are you looking to just have fun? But i can say in most cases with women, we're looking for marriage. Most of us just go about it the wrong way. I will use myself as an example: I had wanted to be married since i was 18yrs old, but my boyfriend at the time said he was not ready. So i stayed with him for 3yrs waiting for him to be ready. All i got in those three yrs was him cheating on me all the time. So i moved on to the next man, waiting for him, to see that i was the one so we could get married. He cheated on me and was also very cruel to me. So i moved to the next man, hoping that he would marry me. He said he wasn't ready so i hang around for another 3yrs,i realized it wasn't going to happen so i moved on. After that i started dating hoping that i would meet someone who would want to marry me. Remember i was having sexual intercourse in all these relationships. I got my heart broken so many times and couldn't understand what i was doing wrong. I kept asking there was something wrong with me. My self esteem dipped, i had given my all in these relationships and still nothing! Next thing i realized i was over 30 and still not married, i had been trying to get married for 13yrs! Then i found the Lord, i got delivered and everything became crystal clear! If you want to get married you need to keep your legs closed. You need to weed out the ones who are there to just have sex with you. Men know most of the time, if they are going to marry u or not, they might just stay for the sex and company. I know of cases where a man will stay in a relationship for 10yrs tell the woman he's not ready to get married, leave that relationship and be married the next year to someone else. And he pretty much used you for 10yrs. In order to weed out the wrong ones, you need to tell every men who expresses interest in you, that you will only have sex after you're married. Tell him "the only sex i am going to have, is with my husband" Simple! Save yourself the heartache and uncertainty, cos once you say this and stick to it, the ones who have ulterior motives will go away. Believe me it works after yrs of heartache, low self esteem, self doubt this is the only way i found my true love. Stop getting used. I will tell you how i met my husband and what i went through to get there later.

Premarital Sex, Save ur self the pain and heartache

This all depends on what you want from a man. Do you want marriage or are you looking to just have fun? But i can say in most cases with women, we're looking for marriage. Most of us just go about it the wrong way. I will use myself as an example: I had wanted to be married since i was 18yrs old, but my boyfriend at the time said he was not ready. So i stayed with him for 3yrs waiting for him to be ready. All i got in those three yrs was him cheating on me all the time. So i moved on to the next man, waiting for him, to see that i was the one so we could get married. He cheated on me and was also very cruel to me. So i moved to the next man, hoping that he would marry me. He said he wasn't ready so i hang around for another 3yrs,i realized it wasn't going to happen so i moved on. After that i started dating hoping that i would meet someone who would want to marry me. Remember i was having sexual intercourse in all these relationships. I got my heart broken so many times and couldn't understand what i was doing wrong. I kept asking there was something wrong with me. My self esteem dipped, i had given my all in these relationships and still nothing! Next thing i realized i was over 30 and still not married, i had been trying to get married for 13yrs! Then i found the Lord, i got delivered and everything became crystal clear! If you want to get married you need to keep your legs closed. You need to weed out the ones who are there to just have sex with you. Men know most of the time, if they are going to marry u or not, they might just stay for the sex and company. I know of cases where a man will stay in a relationship for 10yrs tell the woman he's not ready to get married, leave that relationship and be married the next year to someone else. And he pretty much used you for 10yrs. In order to weed out the wrong ones, you need to tell every men who expresses interest in you, that you will only have sex after you're married. Tell him "the only sex i am going to have, is with my husband" Simple! Save yourself the heartache and uncertainty, cos once you say this and stick to it, the ones who have ulterior motives will go away. Believe me it works after yrs of heartache, low self esteem, self doubt this is the only way i found my true love. Stop getting used. I will tell you how i met my husband and what i went through to get there later.